Accept More Responsibility to Get Power

September 03, 2020 • written by

During my first job, my first boss encouraged me to write down my goals and read all the books.

I am allowed to continue my education outside of college.

A senior manager for a company I was working for became interested in mentoring me.

Every now and then, he’d treat me to lunch and give me advice.

One of the advice that stuck to me is:

Everything that happens to you is your responsibility.

This is especially true when you become a manager.

I know what you’re thinking.

What if you got caught by surprise?

What if you encountered a problem that you’re not expecting?

As a manager, that failure is still YOUR FAULT.

The job of a manager is to find possible causes of failure and prepare for them.


In Dr. Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective people, the lesson about the first habit is:

Proactive living is believing that that the results of your life follow this formula:

10% of life is caused by my situation  (outside factors)
90% of life is how I respond to my situation (me)
100% results.

Reactive living is believing that the results of your life follow this formula:

90% of life is caused by my situation  (outside factors)
10% of life is hw I respond to my situation (me)
100% results.

Many winners and people holding positions of power follow a proactive living and many losers follow a reactive living formula.


Make a list of the most painful events that you experienced in your life.

Select the most painful event.

How is that event your fault?

What lesson can you learn from that painful event?

How can overcoming that event make you a better person?

Answer these questions in your journal.

Repeat this exercise to as many painful events as you can manage.

If I can do it, you can do it too.

I am praying for your success. God bless!

Thank you for reading this far and thank you for your attention.

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